Halfway through my 20s, I still don’t know much but here is I what I do know.

1. Think about your future self often and make the decisions that she would. Your dream self wakes up early, she works out, she reads. she writes. You are already her.
2. No response will always feel better than a paragraph. Whenever I want to react I give myself 2 hours. I usually feel much different than I did during the initial conversation.
3. Jealousy is very rarely about wanting what other people have and more so knowing that you are not applying yourself in the exact way to get whatever is making you jealous.
4. If it feels like a no, it’s a no.
5. If it doesn’t feel like a fuck yes, it’s a no.
6. There is no award for being the ~chill girl~. Say what you need to say when you need to say it, and then stand on it. Having boundaries is powerful.
7. I think we often forget the importance of true silence. No background music or TV, no looking at our phone. Just sitting in our own thoughts. Be intention about listening to yourself rather than the thoughts of others.
8. Write down your best days because you’ll forget them sometimes.
9. Not drinking feels good, not waking up hungover feels better. However, some of my absolute most treasured nights start with a drink and end with a hangover, it’s all about balance. 
10. Compliment strangers. 
11. Be really, really happy for your friends. Clap for them, buy their products, use their services, help them practice. There is very little I enjoy more than seeing my friends win. 
12. When you’re falling in love you feel like you’ll never feel anything better than this or with another person….. you will. 
13. When your heart is broken you feel like you will never feel okay again…..you will. 
14. Call your grandparents. Send your grandma flowers. Hug your grandpa. 
15. Our parents are humans living their life too. It’s easy to just think of them as the role that they have always played but they had a whole life we knew nothing about. They had routines and friends and jobs that had nothing to do with us. It’s important to give them grace and realize that parents are figuring life out the same as us. 
16. On that note, you don’t magically get all the answers when you grow up. 
17. Leave people where you left them. I’m practicing not bringing everyone into every season of life with me if there is no longer a mutual benefit. 
18. When you’re drunk and feel the need to call someone, call someone that already loves you not someone that you’re trying to make love you. It feels much better the next morning.  
19. Find your style. 
20. You really, really don’t have to take dating seriously. Go on dates. Go on A LOT of dates. Meet new people. Make friends. Not everything has to be romantic.
21. Prioritize working out in your routine. Whether its to look good or feel good, it is going to give you energy and endorphins for the rest of your day.
22. A closed mouth doesn’t get fed. Speak up when you have something to say. Start voicing your needs. 
23. Never date a man who only respects women that he is attracted to. 
24. Some relationships feel really great and fun because you’re really great and fun. 
25. Being yourself should always be the coolest thing about you. Whenever I feel nervous about an opportunity or meeting new people I remember that I’m me. And that’s why good things happen; not luck, not fate, just being me.